Tuesday, 19 August 2014
It is crazy that we don't all think alike. For one Snowflake may be a pest. For another, pet reptile feed. For some there is no opinion, and for the lucky ones, Snowflake inspires love. Imagine living in my world - where there is just love. It must be hard for those of you who do not relate. Just as it is hard for me to imagine feeling the way you do. I recognise the macho snake handlers who pretend they don't really care. I have met real men who show that they do care. Who are respectful in relationship with their duties. I suppose it is a little like the story of our ancient ancestors who would thank the planet for her bounty. What happened to that respect. When did the functioning of the electrics in our appliances become more important than life. Big breath. I invite you into my bubble. Look closely at Snowflake. See her little paws. See how she sits on her haunches and eats delicately holding her food. See her little digits - the miracle of her tiny form. Her busy whiskers and alertness. Her light soft fur. The miracle.
Friday, 15 August 2014
Sunday, 10 August 2014
It is funny to think that there are so many of us that feel we have to demand respect. Most parents of teenagers will have become frustrated when they felt their child was 'disrespectful'. And needed 'discipline' to ensure it was taught to respect. But respect is a feeling. It cannot be forced. Fear can be forced. Do I want my teenager or an animal in relationship with me to 'fear' me - NO!
When an animal is learning, it is choosing. If it enters into flight, freeze of fight mode, it is reacting. At this point there is no choice. It may learn something, but the learning is a stress response and will continue to be a stress response in the presence of that 'punisher' which created the stress. So, if we wish to get our horses to respect us by submitting, then there is a strong chance we are punishing them into freeze. A difficult horse may be one who does not freeze - and become - bombproof, but one that reacts by fighting. A different response to the same stress.
I am so grateful that I have learned this information. Grateful too that there is a nicer way to work with all animals. When we force our hand - and sometimes we may do this unwittingly, we are dominating the animals. And this is not the relationship I choose to have with the animals that I know.