When we look. truly look, so much is visible. Learning to paint has helped me to look more closely at so much. Not just the canvas. What I find so interesting, is that when I am painting up close, I often doubt that what I am doing is going to work. Then I step back and see the shadows and highlights and am amazed at how it all come together.
The same is to be said about any relationship. With people or animals. When in the thick of it, you either have faith, or doubt. Is either of these misguided?
When we step back, we can see what is truly going on. With whom are we truly in a fulfilling relationship ? Who are we trying to please? Who do we find enthusiastic? Who is a taker? Who is a giver? Does the animal truly wish to be with us? Does the person really care about us?
And then we can proceed without attachment. And truly be in relationship for relationship sake.